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Mastering Criticism
The determining factor in achievement?
Why do kids quit or fail to achieve?
They fail immediately at walking, talking, manners, riding a bike, playing a game, making decisions, adding, subtracting, running into the wall, ...everything. There is nothing a child gets right.
How the parents and the people in the environment deal with that chronic failure (learning experiences) is in large part going to shape that child's potential for success.
"If at first you don't succeed try, try again."
Thank God my Mom got that one right.
Some parents chose to say things like this:
"You will never get it right."
"You are learning disabled, don't worry about it. No one expects you to do a good job."
"You can't do anything right, can you?"
Pick a phrase. They were all destructive.
None of us like to do things that we fail at. We get embarrassed and we get criticized when we do a bad...or sometimes even when we do a good... job.
KEY POINT: People who ultimately fail rarely get criticized.
KEY POINT: People who don't want to get criticized never fail because they never do anything they don't already know how to do.
KEY POINT: If you want to succeed you are implicitly asking to be criticized.
KEY POINT: Because criticism can feel so painful, very few people will choose the path that has critics on it. Therefore, the path to achievement is generally a very clear road to travel if you can handle the feelings of rejection and criticism...and...you CAN!
....To avoid criticism, people stay within their comfort zone or they do precisely what is anticipated and they simply get no negative "feedback."
No one can have success or achieve anything if they can't cope in some way with criticism. The greater the number of people you will be seen by, the more you will be criticized.
So just how do you master criticism?
The short answer: You have to first feel your emotions as you hear the criticism. Don't fight back. Don't shout. Don't scream. Don't leave blood stains.
You've got to step back and first determine three things:
1. Was the critic correct in their assessment?
2. Did they intend to cause you pain?
3. Do you care about them as a person?
KEY POINT: Successful people use criticism as leverage to excel and do better, make a better product, improve service and make more money.
When people criticize in public, it can be particularly painful. But many people...ENOUGH people will almost always disagree with the person criticizing you.
Criticism must never, ever stand in between you and achievement.
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